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How to Set a Proper Dinner Table - Part 2

By:  Kathy A. Newby, CERP – Certified Event Rental Professional  Stuart Event Rental 

Now that you have the basics under your belts lets cover Formal.

Formal Place Setting:  The most formal settings are strictly symmetrical: centerpiece in the exact center, an even number of candlesticks, place settings spaced evenly around the table, silverware lined up and at the same distance from the edge of the table. Space not taken up by place settings is your available real estate. Feel free to vary flower arrangements and decorations as you like, creating a balanced and charming tablescape. Be careful not to overcrowd the table, arrange your decorations so diners seated opposite can see each other.

The placement of utensils is guided by the menu, the idea being that you use utensils in an “outside in” order. The photo above shows how to set a table for the following menu:

  • Appetizer: Shellfish
  • First Course: Soup or fruit
  • Entrée
  • Salad
  • Dessert

(a)   Service Plate: This large plate, also called a charger, serves as an under plate for the plate holding the first course, which will be brought to the table. When the first course is cleared, the service plate remains in place for any other courses, such as a soup course, until the plate holding the entrée is served, at which point the two plates are exchanged.

a)     Butter Plate: The small butter plate is placed above the forks at the left of the place setting.

b)    Dinner Fork: The largest of the forks, also called the place fork, is placed on the left of the plate. Other smaller forks for other courses are arranged to the left or right of the dinner fork, according to when they will be used.

c)     Fish Fork: If there is a fish course, this small fork is placed to the left of the dinner fork because it is the first fork used.

d)    Salad Fork: If the salad is served after the entrée, the small salad fork is placed to the right of the dinner fork, next to the plate. If the salad is to be served first, and fish second, then the forks would be arranged (left to right): salad fork, fish fork, dinner fork.

e)     Dinner Knife: The large dinner knife is placed to the right of the dinner plate.

f)     Fish Knife: The specially shaped fish knife goes to the right of the dinner knife.

g)    Salad Knife (Note: there is no salad knife in the illustration): If used, according to the above menu, it would be placed to the left of the dinner knife, next to the dinner plate. If the salad is to be served first, and fish second, then the knives would be arranged (left to right): dinner knife, fish knife, salad knife.

h)     Soup Spoon or Fruit Spoon: If soup or fruit is served as a first course, then the accompanying spoon goes to the right of the knives.

i)      Oyster Fork: If shellfish are to be served, the oyster fork goes to the right of the spoons. Note: It is the only fork ever placed on the right of the plate.

j)      Butter Knife: The small spreader is paced diagonally on top of the butter plate, handle on the right and blade down.

k)     Glasses: These are placed on the right, above the knives and spoons. They can number up to five and are placed in the order they will be used. When there are more than three glasses, they can be arranged with smaller glasses in front. The water goblet is placed directly above the knives. Just to the right are placed a red or white wine glass. A sherry glass or champagne flute, to accompany a first course or for an opening toast, go to the right of the wine glasses. Glasses used for a particular course are removed at the end of the course.

l)      Napkin: The napkin is placed on top of the charger (if one is used) or in the space for the plate. It can also go to the left of the forks, or under the forks if space is tight.

Some tableware pieces may be optional, depending on the meal. Setting a beautiful table is not difficult, nor do you need expensive tableware or silverware. Arrangement and creativity are the keys to a lovely setting. 

Adding a table centerpiece will complete the look, you can buy something or make your own.  Herbs in a vase, a bowl filled with holiday ornaments, or several pumpkins are simple, do it yourself table centerpieces. Candles help to create atmosphere but keep them unscented as some people may be sensitivities to scents and you don't want the scent to interfere with the meal.


  • Knife blades are always placed with the cutting edge toward the plate.
  • No more than three of any implement are ever placed on the table, except when an oyster fork is used in addition to three other forks. If more than three courses are served before dessert, then the utensils for the fourth course are brought in with the food; likewise the salad fork and knife may be brought in when the salad course is served.
  • Dessert spoons and forks are brought in on the dessert plate just before dessert is served.

Bring out your personality, the object of setting a beautiful table is to create an intimate place to share a meal and build memories.